Comments on: Stepmom Love Fest http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/ a blog for advice, forum, help and guidance for the stepmom, stepkids and stepfamily Thu, 04 Dec 2008 18:58:32 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Zarifa http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-4513 Zarifa Wed, 22 Oct 2008 23:04:20 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-4513 Great work. Great work.

]]> By: lucky13 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2764 lucky13 Tue, 12 Feb 2008 18:13:37 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2764 Ti, definitely join a forum and start a discussion. Izzy has this great tool on her site, and it's there for all of us to use. Also, therapy is a great venue for getting the tools needed to deal with these very complex situations. Best of luck. Stepmothering is no easy endeavor, hang in there. Ti, definitely join a forum and start a discussion. Izzy has this great tool on her site, and it’s there for all of us to use. Also, therapy is a great venue for getting the tools needed to deal with these very complex situations. Best of luck. Stepmothering is no easy endeavor, hang in there.

]]> By: lucky13 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2763 lucky13 Tue, 12 Feb 2008 18:10:31 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2763 HUGE fan of storycorps! i am usually driving to work in the morning when it's aired on npr and i eventually find myself bawling from the emotion and humanity of the stories. it's one of the best things out there. thanks for talking about it. HUGE fan of storycorps! i am usually driving to work in the morning when it’s aired on npr and i eventually find myself bawling from the emotion and humanity of the stories. it’s one of the best things out there. thanks for talking about it.

]]> By: IzzyRose http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2692 IzzyRose Sat, 09 Feb 2008 18:52:23 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2692 TI, I recommend putting your concern in the forum to get the maximum amount of feedback and advice. I am a big advocate of therapy and recommend it regularly. It sounds like everyone is struggling in their own way and that some boundaries need to be established with bio. The most important relationship is between you and your husband, I believe, in securing a foundation moving forward. I would start there. Try to get on the same page. Come up with a plan. Express your needs and find a third party to talk to...and then maybe bring in the kids. No easy fix and I'm no expert. There are some wonderful women who visit the forum who may be able to give you some help, as well. Glad you found the site. Blessings, IR TI,

I recommend putting your concern in the forum to get the maximum amount of feedback and advice. I am a big advocate of therapy and recommend it regularly. It sounds like everyone is struggling in their own way and that some boundaries need to be established with bio. The most important relationship is between you and your husband, I believe, in securing a foundation moving forward. I would start there. Try to get on the same page. Come up with a plan. Express your needs and find a third party to talk to…and then maybe bring in the kids. No easy fix and I’m no expert. There are some wonderful women who visit the forum who may be able to give you some help, as well.

Glad you found the site. Blessings,

IR

]]> By: IzzyRose http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2691 IzzyRose Sat, 09 Feb 2008 18:46:42 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2691 Jill, you should write about it, too. I'm thinking about who I would interview if I had the chance....kind of an interesting idea to ponder. If he comes to LA-- definitely recommend going to see him. IR Jill, you should write about it, too. I’m thinking about who I would interview if I had the chance….kind of an interesting idea to ponder. If he comes to LA– definitely recommend going to see him.

IR

]]> By: Jill http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2690 Jill Sat, 09 Feb 2008 16:37:34 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2690 I LOVED this book!!!! (And you beat me to the bunch about blogging it! How funny.) I LOVED this book!!!! (And you beat me to the bunch about blogging it! How funny.)

]]> By: Ti http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2687 Ti Sat, 09 Feb 2008 15:47:59 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2687 Hi I just came upon your website and it seems great. I am in need of advice from step-moms who are in my situation. I am so frustrated and feel at the end of my rope. I am married to a great guy who has two daughters from a previous marriage, a 9y/o and a 6y/o. I have my own 11y/o from a previous marriage. He has joint custody and we have his girls every other week for a week at a time. They are great and we have a very loving relationship. My daughter, the 11y/o, likes the oldest step-sister very much but hates the youngest one. I think mainly because of jealousy over her usually receiving the bulk of the attention from pretty much every adult in her family other than me. That is very stressful in itself and my daughter really does not like my husband very much I think because she doesn't like anyone who takes my attention from her. Anyway, all of that is stressful enough on the weeks we have his girls, but their bio-mom is the kind who wears very skimpy revealing clothing we when take the girls back, she tries to manipulate the girls, she has said some bad things about me that the girls have repeated to me, and she tries to get jabs at me while trying to be sweet at the same time. It was bad enough that I had to see her two times a week, on the day we take them back to her and the one night a week on our week that she has dinner with them. Now out of the blue she has started calling them every day on the weeks we have them. She has NEVER done this in the five years we have been in this situation and although she certainly has every right, I feel there is an underlying motive, i.e., she is trying to irritate me, she wants to make sure the girls think of her at least once a day while they are with us, or maybe she just is insecure. Any advice would really be appreciated. I am on the verge of going into therapy over this. Hi I just came upon your website and it seems great. I am in need of advice from step-moms who are in my situation. I am so frustrated and feel at the end of my rope. I am married to a great guy who has two daughters from a previous marriage, a 9y/o and a 6y/o. I have my own 11y/o from a previous marriage. He has joint custody and we have his girls every other week for a week at a time. They are great and we have a very loving relationship. My daughter, the 11y/o, likes the oldest step-sister very much but hates the youngest one. I think mainly because of jealousy over her usually receiving the bulk of the attention from pretty much every adult in her family other than me. That is very stressful in itself and my daughter really does not like my husband very much I think because she doesn’t like anyone who takes my attention from her. Anyway, all of that is stressful enough on the weeks we have his girls, but their bio-mom is the kind who wears very skimpy revealing clothing we when take the girls back, she tries to manipulate the girls, she has said some bad things about me that the girls have repeated to me, and she tries to get jabs at me while trying to be sweet at the same time. It was bad enough that I had to see her two times a week, on the day we take them back to her and the one night a week on our week that she has dinner with them. Now out of the blue she has started calling them every day on the weeks we have them. She has NEVER done this in the five years we have been in this situation and although she certainly has every right, I feel there is an underlying motive, i.e., she is trying to irritate me, she wants to make sure the girls think of her at least once a day while they are with us, or maybe she just is insecure. Any advice would really be appreciated. I am on the verge of going into therapy over this.

]]> By: IzzyRose http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2670 IzzyRose Fri, 08 Feb 2008 18:30:18 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2670 It truly is an amazing project and if it ever comes to Austin I think I'll participate. IR It truly is an amazing project and if it ever comes to Austin I think I’ll participate.

IR

]]> By: Erin http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2669 Erin Fri, 08 Feb 2008 18:27:01 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/02/08/storycorp-listening-is-an-act-of-love/#comment-2669 Amen to that. I'm going to check that site out. I really enjoy reading your blog; your honesty is refreshing. Amen to that. I’m going to check that site out.

I really enjoy reading your blog; your honesty is refreshing.

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