Comments on: Introducing Ms. January! http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/ a blog for advice, forum, help and guidance for the stepmom, stepkids and stepfamily Thu, 04 Dec 2008 18:39:14 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Connie http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1663 Connie Thu, 03 Jan 2008 19:26:21 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1663 I agree.. without therapy you are just winging it... we all know what happens when we do that. And you know, sometimes it takes a couple of tries to find the right therapist. But you must do it. It will save your marriage, even if you aren't married yet. I agree.. without therapy you are just winging it… we all know what happens when we do that. And you know, sometimes it takes a couple of tries to find the right therapist. But you must do it. It will save your marriage, even if you aren’t married yet.

]]> By: Izzy http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1654 Izzy Thu, 03 Jan 2008 15:55:05 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1654 I think family counseling should be a prerequisite for marrying any man with an ex-wife and kids. There are so many new dynamics and people (adults and kids included) with different needs. All members of the family should feel honored and loved and have a neutral space to speak about their concerns. Good luck! IR I think family counseling should be a prerequisite for marrying any man with an ex-wife and kids. There are so many new dynamics and people (adults and kids included) with different needs. All members of the family should feel honored and loved and have a neutral space to speak about their concerns. Good luck!

IR

]]> By: May http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1636 May Wed, 02 Jan 2008 20:18:33 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1636 I thought about us starting some sort of family counseling. This should be a prerequisite before he comes to live with us. I feel badly for my husband and the difficult situation he is in. However, I feel protective of my son who cannot protect himself. I'm also in prayer for myself that I am able to forgive and love my stepson. But I honestly don't know how I'm going to with all the resentment, distrust, and animosity I feel. I thought about us starting some sort of family counseling. This should be a prerequisite before he comes to live with us. I feel badly for my husband and the difficult situation he is in. However, I feel protective of my son who cannot protect himself. I’m also in prayer for myself that I am able to forgive and love my stepson. But I honestly don’t know how I’m going to with all the resentment, distrust, and animosity I feel.

]]> By: Izzy http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1635 Izzy Wed, 02 Jan 2008 20:07:55 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1635 Wow. That's a tough one. Is there anyone who can be the neutral third party so the two of you can talk about this? I think in the interest of your marriage, an honest discussion (even though it might be ugly and difficult) needs to happen. I for one, am a huge believer in therapy...we even invited ours to our wedding. That's how much we credited her with keeping us sane. IR Wow. That’s a tough one. Is there anyone who can be the neutral third party so the two of you can talk about this? I think in the interest of your marriage, an honest discussion (even though it might be ugly and difficult) needs to happen. I for one, am a huge believer in therapy…we even invited ours to our wedding. That’s how much we credited her with keeping us sane.

IR

]]> By: May http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1634 May Wed, 02 Jan 2008 19:42:49 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1634 My hat is off to Ms. January. I just found this site, and I am quite in need of the support it seems to provide. I have never posted anything on a site before now. My New Year has started off fine, but for the tensions that exist as a result from my 14 year old stepson's visit. He consistently physically & verbally abuses my 10 year old son, talks about me behind my back to my son, & is blantantly disrespectful to me (my husband's guilt for not raising the older child has resulted in denial of these accusations, or minimizing their affect on me and my son). The situation is so delicate, my husband and I can't even talk about it. My husband wants my stepson to come live with us next fall when he starts highschool. How can I say yes (what I know I should say), when I feel like that would be inviting satan himself to live with me? My hat is off to Ms. January. I just found this site, and I am quite in need of the support it seems to provide. I have never posted anything on a site before now. My New Year has started off fine, but for the tensions that exist as a result from my 14 year old stepson’s visit. He consistently physically & verbally abuses my 10 year old son, talks about me behind my back to my son, & is blantantly disrespectful to me (my husband’s guilt for not raising the older child has resulted in denial of these accusations, or minimizing their affect on me and my son). The situation is so delicate, my husband and I can’t even talk about it. My husband wants my stepson to come live with us next fall when he starts highschool. How can I say yes (what I know I should say), when I feel like that would be inviting satan himself to live with me?

]]> By: cdp http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1633 cdp Wed, 02 Jan 2008 19:22:35 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1633 I'm loving Jill even more now after reading that interview. Beautiful and messed up indeed. I'll drink to that! I’m loving Jill even more now after reading that interview. Beautiful and messed up indeed. I’ll drink to that!

]]> By: Izzy http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1631 Izzy Wed, 02 Jan 2008 18:54:17 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1631 Email me if you or someone you know wants to be Ms. Feb. It's a thrill for me to meet new women with lives similar and always a little bit different from mine. Kisses IR Email me if you or someone you know wants to be Ms. Feb. It’s a thrill for me to meet new women with lives similar and always a little bit different from mine.

Kisses

IR

]]> By: Sandra Bee http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1626 Sandra Bee Wed, 02 Jan 2008 18:09:07 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2008/01/01/the-dhx-the-doughtie-houses-exchange/#comment-1626 Another great stepmom! Thanks Izzy for profiling these ladies. It's always comforting to read the long-form accounts of other's lives. We all handle our blended family differently yet the underlying similarities are quite interesting. I look forward to these each Month. How does one become "Ms. February"? Thanks and nice story Jill. Sandra Bee Another great stepmom! Thanks Izzy for profiling these ladies. It’s always comforting to read the long-form accounts of other’s lives. We all handle our blended family differently yet the underlying similarities are quite interesting. I look forward to these each Month. How does one become “Ms. February”?
Thanks and nice story Jill.

Sandra Bee

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