Comments on: I raise my nog to you http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/ a blog for advice, forum, help and guidance for the stepmom, stepkids and stepfamily Thu, 04 Dec 2008 19:16:43 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: cdp http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1580 cdp Mon, 31 Dec 2007 18:11:45 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1580 This post exemplifies the many reasons why I lurve you, lady. Happy New Year to you and yours; and may you enjoy that wine and grown-up conversation. I shall raise my glass to you! This post exemplifies the many reasons why I lurve you, lady.

Happy New Year to you and yours; and may you enjoy that wine and grown-up conversation. I shall raise my glass to you!

]]> By: IzzyRose http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1570 IzzyRose Sun, 30 Dec 2007 21:22:41 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1570 I have no idea what we'll do. It will be our first day alone this entire holiday season. I think I'd like to share a bottle of wine with The Husband and talk about our selfish dreams for 2008 and leave kid worries out of the conversation until at least January 2nd. Wish me luck. IR I have no idea what we’ll do. It will be our first day alone this entire holiday season. I think I’d like to share a bottle of wine with The Husband and talk about our selfish dreams for 2008 and leave kid worries out of the conversation until at least January 2nd.

Wish me luck.

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]]> By: simplicity http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1551 simplicity Sat, 29 Dec 2007 14:22:08 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1551 Good post. Let's just say that even though we are a-getting along-working together blended family, our house, moms house etc...it still drags holidays out much longer and much more than at times they need to be. Imagine four sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles, parents....UFF DA! My house is a walk in toy store as of now. THe same thing happens with Birthdays...a week long celebration. I think it's good that the kids see us all work together and make holidays/birthdays special even though we for the most part can do our celebrations on our own (The kids mom does Christmas Eve, we do Christmas etc) but at the same time there's something about it turning into more than just a holiday that's tough and just plain exhausting! Really good post, honest, that's what I like and I'm sure you and your family had a good Christmas. So with no stepsons around for the New Year what's your plan?!? Good post. Let’s just say that even though we are a-getting along-working together blended family, our house, moms house etc…it still drags holidays out much longer and much more than at times they need to be. Imagine four sets of grandparents, aunts, uncles, parents….UFF DA! My house is a walk in toy store as of now. THe same thing happens with Birthdays…a week long celebration. I think it’s good that the kids see us all work together and make holidays/birthdays special even though we for the most part can do our celebrations on our own (The kids mom does Christmas Eve, we do Christmas etc) but at the same time there’s something about it turning into more than just a holiday that’s tough and just plain exhausting!

Really good post, honest, that’s what I like and I’m sure you and your family had a good Christmas. So with no stepsons around for the New Year what’s your plan?!?

]]> By: Alice Nelson http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1547 Alice Nelson Sat, 29 Dec 2007 06:11:35 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1547 A beautiful entry, Izzy Rose. I had my first xmas eve with Mr.Brady's family and...well...let's just say I learned a lot. We had a blast though - and overall, it was far less stressful than I thought it would be. ...and...I went to www.anthropologie.com You were right...so pretty! A beautiful entry, Izzy Rose.

I had my first xmas eve with Mr.Brady’s family and…well…let’s just say I learned a lot. We had a blast though - and overall, it was far less stressful than I thought it would be.

…and…I went to http://www.anthropologie.com

You were right…so pretty!

]]> By: Lynn Lapera http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1543 Lynn Lapera Sat, 29 Dec 2007 01:48:47 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1543 Hi IzzyRose! I haven't talked to you in a while. I wanted to add a little footnote to my life as a stepmother. As you know, I have two boys and 3 stepchildren and now the grandbabies are pouring in. I love it! However, with that come new traditions started by the children. This means my having to spend Thanksgiving, "Santa Sunday" and Christmas Day every year with their mother, as well as birthdays, etc., throughout the year. That, in turn, also means I hardly ever get to hold my darling grandchildren during those holidays. And, do you know how hard it is to get pictures of these cute little faces without snapping the ex's face too? Oh well. I'm actually getting use to her and sometimes even forget that she's there. We even sat at the same small table for Christmas dinner this year while most of the family sat at tables in the adjoining room. Not sure how that happened. I was in my comfort zone this year too because my ex's wife wasn't the only ex at Christmas this year. My daughter-in-law (the hostess) had two sets of parents there as well. We're just one big happy family! Who says it can't be done. We do it for the kids and they are the best "steps" I could ever ask for. Did I mention that we have a "Kids Christmas" the weekend before Christmas? My husband and I get all 5 of our children and their children for the weekend for our very own Christmas . . . without any ex's! There are 20 of us now and what a great time we all have. Hi IzzyRose! I haven’t talked to you in a while.

I wanted to add a little footnote to my life as a stepmother. As you know, I have two boys and 3 stepchildren and now the grandbabies are pouring in. I love it! However, with that come new traditions started by the children. This means my having to spend Thanksgiving, “Santa Sunday” and Christmas Day every year with their mother, as well as birthdays, etc., throughout the year.

That, in turn, also means I hardly ever get to hold my darling grandchildren during those holidays. And, do you know how hard it is to get pictures of these cute little faces without snapping the ex’s face too? Oh well. I’m actually getting use to her and sometimes even forget that she’s there. We even sat at the same small table for Christmas dinner this year while most of the family sat at tables in the adjoining room. Not sure how that happened.

I was in my comfort zone this year too because my ex’s wife wasn’t the only ex at Christmas this year. My daughter-in-law (the hostess) had two sets of parents there as well. We’re just one big happy family! Who says it can’t be done. We do it for the kids and they are the best “steps” I could ever ask for.

Did I mention that we have a “Kids Christmas” the weekend before Christmas? My husband and I get all 5 of our children and their children for the weekend for our very own Christmas . . . without any ex’s! There are 20 of us now and what a great time we all have.

]]> By: Kristi http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1540 Kristi Fri, 28 Dec 2007 14:32:16 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1540 This entry of yours really touched me. Thanks for bringing those good tears to my eyes. Those boys sure are lucky and it sounds like you are too! Happy New Year to you and yours. This entry of yours really touched me. Thanks for bringing those good tears to my eyes. Those boys sure are lucky and it sounds like you are too! Happy New Year to you and yours.

]]> By: Exhausted Stepmom http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1536 Exhausted Stepmom Fri, 28 Dec 2007 03:30:05 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/12/27/stepkids_christmas/#comment-1536 I'm sitting here thinking the same thing - it is over again. After six years together, three married years, we have never had the kids on Christmas morning. The biomom family has a big thing on Christmas Eve a few hour drive away... the kids always get to go. We never get to have them. So we make "deals" with Santa (and other family member) and do Christmas early (i.e. the 23rd) or we, as this year, late (the 26th). The wonderful children taken it all in stride (10 & 11), except for being sick and tired from all the craziness. I, for one, am exhausted. I work so hard to make sure to never step on the mom's toes (she refuses to even talk to me), and just to make things comfortable for the kids. They deserve nothing less. Christmas is not about a day, but it is about family and love. Hopefully, that is the lesson they learn here. And I will keep my own selfish and emotional responses responses quiet again... I'll be the responsible one, but I think I deserve that nog! I’m sitting here thinking the same thing - it is over again. After six years together, three married years, we have never had the kids on Christmas morning. The biomom family has a big thing on Christmas Eve a few hour drive away… the kids always get to go. We never get to have them. So we make “deals” with Santa (and other family member) and do Christmas early (i.e. the 23rd) or we, as this year, late (the 26th).

The wonderful children taken it all in stride (10 & 11), except for being sick and tired from all the craziness. I, for one, am exhausted. I work so hard to make sure to never step on the mom’s toes (she refuses to even talk to me), and just to make things comfortable for the kids. They deserve nothing less. Christmas is not about a day, but it is about family and love. Hopefully, that is the lesson they learn here. And I will keep my own selfish and emotional responses responses quiet again… I’ll be the responsible one, but I think I deserve that nog!

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