Comments on: Make one good girlfriend http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/ a blog for advice, forum, help and guidance for the stepmom, stepkids and stepfamily Wed, 07 Jan 2009 04:22:39 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: IzzyRose http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-2909 IzzyRose Tue, 19 Feb 2008 21:32:06 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-2909 Well jump back in, Noelle. It's never easy making friends, I agree-- but, as an adult, I've just decided to push myself on people. So far, no one has got a restraining order out on me:) If you are in Dallas, then you can certainly make it to the Stepmom shower in Austin- check it out on the home page. No psycho soul vampires will be invited. IR Well jump back in, Noelle. It’s never easy making friends, I agree– but, as an adult, I’ve just decided to push myself on people. So far, no one has got a restraining order out on me:)

If you are in Dallas, then you can certainly make it to the Stepmom shower in Austin- check it out on the home page. No psycho soul vampires will be invited.

IR

]]> By: Noelle http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-2907 Noelle Tue, 19 Feb 2008 20:55:20 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-2907 Girlfriends? What are those? Seriously. I'm in Texas, too (Dallas area, not Austin, though Austin is where I'd rather be), and although I used to have a pretty respectable circle of friends, they have...dispersed. Some have moved, some just fallen out of touch, some sided with the ex-husband (although oddly enough, the ex and I remain friends). And I've fallen out of the habit of making friends. I'm a basically shy person who has to force herself out of the shell. I used to take part in a newsgroup (for childless by choice people) and had friends through that group, but my stepmomhood kind of makes me not suitable for that newsgroup anymore. So, one good girlfriend. Wish I had one of those. I did have one, but she turned out to be a psycho soul vampire after I helped her get a job (long story). That made me a bit gunshy about making friends. Girlfriends? What are those?

Seriously.

I’m in Texas, too (Dallas area, not Austin, though Austin is where I’d rather be), and although I used to have a pretty respectable circle of friends, they have…dispersed. Some have moved, some just fallen out of touch, some sided with the ex-husband (although oddly enough, the ex and I remain friends). And I’ve fallen out of the habit of making friends. I’m a basically shy person who has to force herself out of the shell. I used to take part in a newsgroup (for childless by choice people) and had friends through that group, but my stepmomhood kind of makes me not suitable for that newsgroup anymore.

So, one good girlfriend. Wish I had one of those. I did have one, but she turned out to be a psycho soul vampire after I helped her get a job (long story). That made me a bit gunshy about making friends.

]]> By: Stepmother's Milk- advice, blog and forum for the stepmom stepfamilies and step-parents http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-645 Stepmother's Milk- advice, blog and forum for the stepmom stepfamilies and step-parents Fri, 28 Sep 2007 15:04:58 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-645 [...] latest Snuffleupagus siting…how I scored some new girlfriends… and the dramatic unveiling of Ms. October! How’s that for TV promo writing…did I [...] [...] latest Snuffleupagus siting…how I scored some new girlfriends… and the dramatic unveiling of Ms. October! How’s that for TV promo writing…did I [...]

]]> By: Julie http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-386 Julie Mon, 17 Sep 2007 19:06:29 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-386 Thanks! I'm not entirely sure. It was late last week, and I was cruising around the Internet searching for stuff written by other stepmoms. I was on another site, and yours was linked... can't remember the name anymore - sorry! If you start a group, please let me know. I'd love to join! Another challenge I've found, even with regards to reading materials about stepparenting/blended families, is finding stuff written by single women (without their own children) marrying into these family situations. I know we're not alone, but sometimes it feels like it!!! Take care, Julie Thanks! I’m not entirely sure. It was late last week, and I was cruising around the Internet searching for stuff written by other stepmoms. I was on another site, and yours was linked… can’t remember the name anymore - sorry!

If you start a group, please let me know. I’d love to join!

Another challenge I’ve found, even with regards to reading materials about stepparenting/blended families, is finding stuff written by single women (without their own children) marrying into these family situations. I know we’re not alone, but sometimes it feels like it!!!

Take care,
Julie

]]> By: IzzyRose http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-384 IzzyRose Mon, 17 Sep 2007 17:37:19 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-384 Hi Julie, Great to meet you and thanks for the Austin welcome. I have met many great women,but not too many stepmoms or any groups. I have designs of starting my own and will keep you posted. Just curious...how you came across my site? I'll keep writing if you keep reading. IR Hi Julie,
Great to meet you and thanks for the Austin welcome.

I have met many great women,but not too many stepmoms or any groups. I have designs of starting my own and will keep you posted. Just curious…how you came across my site?

I’ll keep writing if you keep reading.

IR

]]> By: Julie http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-381 Julie Mon, 17 Sep 2007 16:10:38 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-381 Izzy, Love your site - thanks for sharing with such honesty and humor! I'm also an Austinite and a stepmom (9-year old stepdaughter) of almost three years. Have you had any luck finding any kind of support groups in the Austin area? I've been searching for years. I actually went to one before I was even married (b/c I was having the pre-wedding "oh my God, I'm going to be a stepmom!" panic attacks) but found that particular one to be extremely negative and depressing. I opted for cutting out on those support group meetings and marrying my husband! Anyhow, I'd love to find some sort of stepmom community. I'm 31, and the vast majority of my friends are unmarried... none of them stepmoms or dating men with children. They're great listeners, but I'd love to meet some women in the same boat (or at least, ones that vaguely resemble my own in this area). Thanks! 'Hope you're enjoying Austin. Thank God, the heat will subside before too long. Julie Izzy,

Love your site - thanks for sharing with such honesty and humor! I’m also an Austinite and a stepmom (9-year old stepdaughter) of almost three years. Have you had any luck finding any kind of support groups in the Austin area? I’ve been searching for years. I actually went to one before I was even married (b/c I was having the pre-wedding “oh my God, I’m going to be a stepmom!” panic attacks) but found that particular one to be extremely negative and depressing. I opted for cutting out on those support group meetings and marrying my husband! Anyhow, I’d love to find some sort of stepmom community. I’m 31, and the vast majority of my friends are unmarried… none of them stepmoms or dating men with children. They’re great listeners, but I’d love to meet some women in the same boat (or at least, ones that vaguely resemble my own in this area). Thanks!

‘Hope you’re enjoying Austin. Thank God, the heat will subside before too long.
Julie

]]> By: RB http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-305 RB Thu, 06 Sep 2007 02:54:20 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-305 This post is so perfect and so, so true. Your mama knew what she was talking about! This post is so perfect and so, so true. Your mama knew what she was talking about!

]]> By: IzzyRose http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-281 IzzyRose Sun, 02 Sep 2007 15:20:21 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-281 I do feel stalked, miss Bitsy...and will keep my eyes out for you on the trail. Send me an email sometime. IR I do feel stalked, miss Bitsy…and will keep my eyes out for you on the trail. Send me an email sometime.

IR

]]> By: bitsy parker http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-280 bitsy parker Sat, 01 Sep 2007 16:16:12 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-280 I live in Austin. I'll be your friend. Sounds like you run too early, too far and too fast for me. I'm a plodder. P.S. I I know someone who knows you. I passed your site on to someone to read and they said "I know Izzy ('cept they knew your name)! She used to work here (as in the green place.)" Now, don't you feel perfectly stalked!! I live in Austin. I’ll be your friend. Sounds like you run too early, too far and too fast for me. I’m a plodder.

P.S. I I know someone who knows you. I passed your site on to someone to read and they said “I know Izzy (’cept they knew your name)! She used to work here (as in the green place.)” Now, don’t you feel perfectly stalked!!

]]> By: Chelly http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-258 Chelly Thu, 30 Aug 2007 13:05:12 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-258 Izzy, I have gathered in tons of online girlfriends, I have even met a few when they made trips in my direction. But the people here, close by, have their own agendas, most can not relate to me. So I become the last person people come to for anything. I do have one friend here that is also a step-mother, so we go through alot together, but she has closer friends then me that she will go to first, and only come vent to me when her "better" friends don't understand. I tend to be the "Oh, yhea, I forgot about you" friend... Or the "So and So and I are fighting, lets hang out" friend. Stephanie, I don't mind hanging out at Coffee shops, since most sale hot chocolate too lol, and I will hang out in a winery. Izzy,
I have gathered in tons of online girlfriends, I have even met a few when they made trips in my direction. But the people here, close by, have their own agendas, most can not relate to me. So I become the last person people come to for anything. I do have one friend here that is also a step-mother, so we go through alot together, but she has closer friends then me that she will go to first, and only come vent to me when her “better” friends don’t understand. I tend to be the “Oh, yhea, I forgot about you” friend… Or the “So and So and I are fighting, lets hang out” friend.

Stephanie,
I don’t mind hanging out at Coffee shops, since most sale hot chocolate too lol, and I will hang out in a winery.

]]> By: cdp http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-256 cdp Wed, 29 Aug 2007 21:37:43 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-256 As usual, you are spot on. I so cherish my girlfriends and one of the things that's been difficult about the insanity of my life the last few years is not having the time to connect with them and spend time as often as I'd like to. ps your hubby sounds like an absolute gem - As usual, you are spot on. I so cherish my girlfriends and one of the things that’s been difficult about the insanity of my life the last few years is not having the time to connect with them and spend time as often as I’d like to.

ps your hubby sounds like an absolute gem -

]]> By: Alice Nelson (playgroundropout) http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-255 Alice Nelson (playgroundropout) Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:59:41 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-255 I hear ya, sister! Having just moved to Washington from Canada, I literally have no close girlfriends here. Everybody keeps telling me, "Oh! They arent that far away - only 3 hours!". Which is true, but that doesnt help when I really just want to meet for a quick chat & coffee. Plus none of them really call. I've been trying to meet new people in this city - but it's been hard. The social awkwardness I carry is a drag. Which is why I've found this online community to be such a wonderful support system. But hey - if anyone is down for a chat on skype/phone, let me know! I'm all ears :) I hear ya, sister! Having just moved to Washington from Canada, I literally have no close girlfriends here. Everybody keeps telling me, “Oh! They arent that far away - only 3 hours!”. Which is true, but that doesnt help when I really just want to meet for a quick chat & coffee. Plus none of them really call.

I’ve been trying to meet new people in this city - but it’s been hard. The social awkwardness I carry is a drag.

Which is why I’ve found this online community to be such a wonderful support system. But hey - if anyone is down for a chat on skype/phone, let me know! I’m all ears :)

]]> By: Stephanie http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-254 Stephanie Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:50:10 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-254 Yep, I wholeheartedly agree. I'm all about my online girlfriends, and my in-real-life girlfriends. They make life bearable when it's unbearable, laughable when I really want to cry, and I couldn't live without them. Hubby is awesome. Love him to death. But I need my girlfriends more than I need chocolate. That's A LOT! And I agree, Chelly. Coffee, maybe. Margarita? Absolutely! :) Yep, I wholeheartedly agree. I’m all about my online girlfriends, and my in-real-life girlfriends. They make life bearable when it’s unbearable, laughable when I really want to cry, and I couldn’t live without them. Hubby is awesome. Love him to death. But I need my girlfriends more than I need chocolate. That’s A LOT! And I agree, Chelly. Coffee, maybe. Margarita? Absolutely! :)

]]> By: IzzyRose http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-253 IzzyRose Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:38:02 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-253 Yes to Erin... I am grateful for the women I have met online...other moms, stepmoms and single ladies from all over the county who give me stories to laugh and think about every day. IR Yes to Erin…
I am grateful for the women I have met online…other moms, stepmoms and single ladies from all over the county who give me stories to laugh and think about every day.
IR

]]> By: Erin http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-252 Erin Wed, 29 Aug 2007 19:35:06 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-252 Amen girlfriend. A-M-E-N I've lived in Illinois my entire life and I still search for a gaggle of girlfriends to help you through the good times and bad. I think I've found a well-rounded group now but it took a while. Here's to surrounding yourself with a group of sassy, charasmatic online/blogging girlfriends, too! Amen girlfriend. A-M-E-N

I’ve lived in Illinois my entire life and I still search for a gaggle of girlfriends to help you through the good times and bad. I think I’ve found a well-rounded group now but it took a while.

Here’s to surrounding yourself with a group of sassy, charasmatic online/blogging girlfriends, too!

]]> By: Izzy http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-251 Izzy Wed, 29 Aug 2007 15:10:50 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-251 Chelly, I find that hard to believe...you are a charming woman. And very thoughtful. I'd be happy to meet you for coffee anytime. IR Chelly,
I find that hard to believe…you are a charming woman. And very thoughtful. I’d be happy to meet you for coffee anytime.

IR

]]> By: bonita sarita http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-249 bonita sarita Wed, 29 Aug 2007 14:40:00 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-249 How can anyone NOT be friends with such a sassy, beautiful, fun and caring woman? I dare them to show their face in Texas...I'll prove stereotypes correct with my cowgirl antics! This post has made my day. How can anyone NOT be friends with such a sassy, beautiful, fun and caring woman? I dare them to show their face in Texas…I’ll prove stereotypes correct with my cowgirl antics! This post has made my day.

]]> By: Chelly http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-248 Chelly Wed, 29 Aug 2007 14:28:50 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/08/29/girls-night-out/#comment-248 I would love that "One good girlfriend" but I seem to be missing something that attracts people to me. Instead, I seem to almost have a repellent. I am the "No one else wants to hang out, so would you like to?" type of friend. The back up, because everyone knows, I have no one else. I do get the once in a while chat, but they are rare, and very far between. Maybe if I drank coffee or tea I could find one or two... But for this old military brat now military spouse, making good friends is hard, I don't mind the good-byes, I just seem to hate the hellos. I would love that “One good girlfriend” but I seem to be missing something that attracts people to me. Instead, I seem to almost have a repellent. I am the “No one else wants to hang out, so would you like to?” type of friend. The back up, because everyone knows, I have no one else. I do get the once in a while chat, but they are rare, and very far between. Maybe if I drank coffee or tea I could find one or two… But for this old military brat now military spouse, making good friends is hard, I don’t mind the good-byes, I just seem to hate the hellos.

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