Comments on: A different breed http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/06/20/breed/ a blog for advice, forum, help and guidance for the stepmom, stepkids and stepfamily Wed, 07 Jan 2009 04:05:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.3 By: Kris Stevenson http://stepmothersmilk.com/2007/06/20/breed/#comment-15 Kris Stevenson Sat, 30 Jun 2007 19:34:17 +0000 http://stepmothersmilk.com/working/izzy-rose/a-different-breed/#comment-15 The package deal..........is it really a deal? I mean we are expected to raise, love, nuture someone else's child who doesn't necessarily want us to be raising them or even want us around. So, where is the deal in that? I am still trying to figure that one out. I too, always wanted a family, to be the loving mother with 2.5 kids. So, naturally marrying a man I love and raising his daughter was going to be great. Don't get me wrong, I love my s-daughter and I think she is an amazing young woman, but it has by far been the most difficult experience for me. It's not the s-childs doing so much as it is the situation we are put in as s-parents. How much do we parent? How much do we not parent? Where do you find the balance of what your role is without losing yourself in the frustration of what you are or what you are not to this child? The package deal……….is it really a deal? I mean we are expected to raise, love, nuture someone else’s child who doesn’t necessarily want us to be raising them or even want us around. So, where is the deal in that? I am still trying to figure that one out. I too, always wanted a family, to be the loving mother with 2.5 kids. So, naturally marrying a man I love and raising his daughter was going to be great. Don’t get me wrong, I love my s-daughter and I think she is an amazing young woman, but it has by far been the most difficult experience for me. It’s not the s-childs doing so much as it is the situation we are put in as s-parents. How much do we parent? How much do we not parent? Where do you find the balance of what your role is without losing yourself in the frustration of what you are or what you are not to this child?

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